People often discuss what they would tell their younger selves if given the opportunity. The advice and wisdom they’d share, the “friends” to stay away from, and the comfort they’d wrap themselves in after that deep heartbreak. I’ll admit I’ve thought about it a few times myself. The younger me was a bit naive, a little insecure, and way too worried about what others thought of her. She liked to think she was an “individual” when really she craved to be accepted by her peers. With thirty around the corner I got to thinking…
What would I tell my younger self?
I’d like to start off by saying that lime green eye shadow is not your friend. But don’t ever be afraid or ashamed to express yourself either. If people don’t like it, or you, it’s truly not the end of the world. They’ll get over it or you’ll move past the criticism better and stronger. Learn to pick and choose your battles this will make life so much easier in the future. Sometimes it seems like the best reaction is the fiery one when most of the time it’s perfectly acceptable to take a step back and evaluate whether the issue is even worth your time. In all honesty, most of the battles you chose could have been avoided, or worked through, had you and the other person not been so quick to jump to conclusions.
Which brings me to my next point. Those bridges that were burned, those people who decided they were fine, with or without you, were never really your friends. The hurt seemed like the weight of the world on your shoulders but in reality you were able to bloom and blossom into something so special once that toxic energy evaporated. Don’t dwell on any of that. Instead learn from it and continue to grow.
Never stop wearing your heart on your sleeve, because one day you’ll find a man who will love and appreciate all that you are and everything you bring to the table. Be kind and respectful to one another. He’ll be your biggest supporter and your very best friend. You’ll need someone like him on your side. Love him with all that you have and he’ll always do the same.
Spend time with your family, because one day you or they wont be around and you’ll regret not making the most of the time you did have.
And please stop beating yourself up so much. You are worth so much more than you believe. You are beautiful, smart, and overall a really awesome person. I should know.
Keep in mind that life will throw a lot of lemons your way but if you persevere. If you continue to be the fighter I know you are, then nothing is going to stop you from achieving your goals. So keep your head up, keep on smiling, and buckle up. Because you have quite a ride in front of you.
Love always, me.
What would you say to your younger self?